Hi. If I feel pms symptoms, such as headaches or back pain, a few days before my period each month, may I still be with my husband, if those days don't fall on any of the three onot?
Thank you for your question.
A veset can be based on a physical symptom. However, in order to establish such a veset (a veset haguf), one must have a consistent symptom (always a headache, always a backache, etc.) at a consistent time prior to the onset of menses (for example, menses always begins during the same onah as the symptom, or during the following onah). If this is the case, get back to us with details and we will tell you how to proceed. If not, then you are technically allowed to be with your husband. Just use common sense - if you really feel you are about to get your period at any minute, then don't have marital relations.
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