Newlywed, discomfort with moch
12 June, 2017
I'm recently married and I've not been doing a moch when I do my hefsek. When I did do it it hurt a lot, and I am also usually traveling at that time. I learned that a hefsek is still valid without a moch, but that long term I shouldn't just decide not to do it. How big a deal is this? Besides the inconvenience I just can't stand the thought of it – it felt like pulling out a dry tampon and I couldn't focus on anything other than please get this thing out!
Mazal tov on your recent wedding!
Especially at the start of marriage, the moch dachuk can be uncomfortable. However, as you note, though the moch dachuk can be omitted, it ideally should not be. When you feel ready to try again, here are some suggestions that may help:
First and foremost, try not to keep it in longer than necessary. Try to insert it right before shekiah and remove it right after tzeit hakochavim. If you will be traveling and would need to keep it in for significantly longer than is comfortable or necessary, you may omit the moch dachuk.
It might be that moistening the moch dachuk before insertion with a drop of water (so that it is damp, though not completely wet) would make it more comfortable for you. Using a vaginal moisturizer earlier in the day might also help increase comfort by providing lubrication. Sitting down for the duration of its insertion may also reduce discomfort.
It is acceptable to use a single bedikah cloth as the moch dachuk. Some women actually find it more comfortable to use a tampon wrapped with a bedikah cloth as a moch dachuk.
Please get back to us if these tips do not help.
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