Avoiding chupat niddah
10 May, 2005
Help….I am getting married in 6 weeks. When my fiance and I set our wedding date, the date was in line with my cycle. A month after that, maybe due to nerves, my period moved up two weeks.
I went on the pill to regulate my cycles, but instead of it doing that, I have been experiencing constant spotting/flow for over two weeks now. Is it too late to go on something new or for something to be done? The way it stands now, I will have a chuppat niddah.
If there are six weeks to the wedding, it is likely that something can still be done. The first cycle of hormonal contraception often has breakthrough bleeding. In many women, this improves by the second cycle. There are also a number of different formulations of pills that can be tried.
Please go back to your physician as soon as possible. Make sure he or she realizes that you need to have all bleeding cease at least a full week (preferably more like 10 days) prior to your to your wedding to allow you to complete the bedikot of the shivah neki'im. You may want to refer him or her to www.jewishwomenshealth.org, our website for medical professionals (also available as an app), for a better understanding of your concerns.
Please also make sure you understand what stains do and what do not make you a niddah – see our article on ketamim. Any problematic stains or bedikot should be shown to a rabbi – make sure he knows you're getting married. Please get back to us if you have additional questions.
Ideally we do not want to get to a situation of chupat niddah. But if that ends up being the case, please try to keep it in perspective, despite all of the difficulty in such a situation. Baruch Hashem you have found your chatan, and you will spend the rest of your life together making up for this lost time. Don't let the possible short-term challenges ahead overshadow your simcha, which remains undiminished.
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