Guest linens and intimacy
12 February, 2005
What is the din for staying overnight at a hotel/friend's house? Do you really have to bring your own linens if you are planning on having intimacy?
There are two concerns with using your host's linen. One is not to leave linen with the stains of the discharges that can result from intercourse. The other is to preserve modesty by not having the stains indicate that relations took place. Halacha does not address this question specifically, so it comes under the general category of "derech eretz" (fitting or polite behavior) which is also incumbent on us.
The reason for bringing linen would be not to leave stained linen for your friend to change. If you know that your friend does not expect you to bring your own linens, or you know that you strip them in the morning after being her guest, than it would not be required. For purposes of modesty it is sufficient to put a towel or cloth over the sheet.
You do not need to bring your own linen to a hotel. There, you are paying for the service of using their linen.
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