Stain on husband’s body after relations
17 July, 2017
I have had a Mireana IUD for about 10 months. In that time I have only had a period once; other than that I have spotting sometimes that I don't look at/don't see.
On Friday I felt some moistness when I went to the bathroom so I didn't look in the toilet.
After sex with my husband later that day he saw some red on him. I have not seen any red myself but I don't look.
The question is, does what my husband see make me in niddah, and if so do we start counting from Friday?
If a man finds blood on his organ after intercourse, the wife is rendered niddah. You need to wait five days from when you considered yourself possibly niddah before counting the seven clean days.
In addition, blood found during or immediately after intercourse (and blood found on the husband's body falls in this category even if the blood is found after some time has passed) is a complex halachic situation. Therefore, the next time you have intercourse, you should perform a bedikah before and after relations, and your husband should wipe himself with a white cloth afterwards as well. Obviously you should do these checks at a time when you don't suspect you are staining. If these checks are clear, you no longer need to be concerned about this issue. If blood is found, please get back to us for further guidance.
For the future (after performing this set of bedikot) you should not look for any blood after intercourse. Wait a few minutes before getting up and/or cleaning yourselves. Be sure to use tissues or colored towels to wipe yourselves and don't look! Make sure your bed linens are colored as well.
In addition, we recommend abstaining from intercourse for 24 hours after finding a stain to avoid this particular situation. You can monitor whether you are spotting – without becoming niddah – by wearing colored undewear light enough for stains to be visible, or by looking at toilet paper after waiting at least 15 seconds between urinating and wiping.
Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.
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