Hymenal bleeding, married seven months
4 March, 2018
I have a question regarding hymenal bleeding.
I've been married for 7 months, and each time we have any penetrative intercourse, I experience pain, and begin bleeding. The bleeding usually occurs after going to the washroom for the first time afterwards, and is bright red in color, appearing both in the toilet and on the toilet paper, but does not last beyond that first time going to the washroom.
I usually put on a pad afterwards, and have no blood appear.
Does this bleeding make me Niddah?
Mazal tov on your recent marriage!
This appears to be hymenal bleeding, or dam betulim. A kallah becomes niddah from dam betulim the first time the couple completes relations, whether or not she sees blood. On subsequent occasions, hymenal bleeding makes you niddah only if it meets the usual criteria for stains.
Blood found in the toilet does not make you niddah. Blood found on toilet paper could make you niddah if you are Ashkenazi and you wiped yourself within 15 seconds of intercourse or of urinating. To avoid becoming niddah from staining, we recommend the following precautions:
- Use colored sheets.
- After intercourse, both you and your husband should clean yourselves only with colored towels or disposable tissues, and not within 15 seconds after the conclusion of relations.
- Wear colored underwear and/or disposable pads or pantiliners.
- Wait at least 15 seconds between urinating and wiping.
- Please see our articles on toilet paper and stains for more details, and feel free to get back to us with any additional questions.
We also recommend consulting your physician about why you are continuing to experience pain and bleeding after seven months of marriage.
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