14 January, 2006
I have been married for 3 years B”H and have 1 child that took 7 months to conceive and was born 6 weeks early due to spontaneous rupture of the membranes. It has been 18 months since our daughter was born, yet I haven’t conceived since and I’m only 22 and my husband 23. I’m starting to worry that maybe there could be a secondary infertility problem chas v’shalom and want to be checked out – especially as my mother and close female relations seem to get pregnant every few months despite being older than me. My husband thinks that I’m getting panicked for no reason and doesn’t think that I should visit the doctor. What do you advise?
We appreciate your concerns about secondary infertility. The amount of time it takes for a woman to conceive another child after giving birth varies from woman to woman, even within the same family. Nursing can also delay conception.
If you have not been using any form of contraception and your menses have resumed, then you should contact your physician at this point with any concerns. Reaching out to your physician is a proactive step you can take to gather more information and allay your worries.
If you’d like to talk out your concerns further, you may also find it helpful to consult a Yoetzet Halacha Fertility Counselor. This is a free service, details here.
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