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Keeping husband informed

15 May, 2019


What are the proper things to say to one’s husband for
–becoming niddah
–hefsek tahara
–beginning counting 7
–as the count of 7 progresses
–announcing plans to go to mikvah
Thank you


You should definitely inform your husband when you become niddah (“I am niddah” or ” I got my period”). If you are spotting beforehand, you can tell him that you are not niddah yet, but you probably will be niddah soon.

As far as the taharah process is concerned, some couples feel comfortable discussing every step of the process. Others prefer that the wife just let the husband know when she expects to immerse. You and your husband can discuss what level of information and involvement feels right for the two of you. This is also an opportunity to discuss the logistics of mikveh night, such as who is watching the kids if relevant.

Upon returning from the mikveh, you should let your husband know that you are tehorah.

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