Delaying hefsek after miscarriage
20 December, 2006
I had a miscarriage one week ago. Most of the bleeding has stopped and now there is just spotting. Am I obligated to try to do a hefsek tahara as soon as possible or can I wait until I am sure that it will turn out "good"? I don't know if emotionally at this point I would be able to deal with the stress and upset that having to start again repeatedly would cause (ie if I got a good day or two and then had a questionable or not good bedika).
Does the fact that my husband would probably not agree with my approach change the answer?
We are sorry to hear of your miscarriage.
You are not obligated to attempt a hefsek taharah until you are confident that all bleeding has stopped.
Please note, however, that spotting may continue for a while and you may decide to attempt a hefsek taharah earlier. Also, not all spotting renders a woman niddah or invalidates her clean days. Please see our article on stains for more information. Do not hesitate to bring questionable cloths to a rav for evaluation.
While it is important to take your husband's point of view into account, this halacha is independent of his position.
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