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Seeking a method

30 April, 2009


I am 40, have six children, am overweight, and have had gestational diabetes with my last two pregnancies.  The most recent was unexpected – we had been practicing NFP – and very hard on me both emotionally and physically. Our family is complete and beside that, I am not in a condition conducive to a healthy pregnancy.  If circumstances would change and I could get in better shape, I wouldn't mind more children.  But I really don't want to risk getting pregnant at all. We spoke to our Rav and he gave us a heter to use birth control.

My husband and I have been together only twice since the baby was born five months ago because of our fear.  I cannot take hormonal contraception, and the diaphragm was uncomfortable.  I am afraid the IUD would bother me as well.  What else can I do?????


We are sorry to hear of your situation.

We recommend that you read our article on choosing a contraceptive method to know all available options and discuss with your physician your options and concerns. Please note that a correctly fitting diaphragm should not be uncomfortable. If it is uncomfortable, you may need a different size. A diaphragm needs to be refitted after each childbirth and after each gain or loss of about 10 pounds. An IUD should not be felt at all, as it is inserted into the uterus.

Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.

We wish you a refuah shleimah!

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