Avoiding recurrence of dam betulim
24 January, 2011
I am a recent kallah who experienced a few days of bleeding (dam betulim) after the first time we had relations. After waiting the 4+7 days, I will be going to the mikvah this week. As we prepare for second time, we are concerned about experiencing additional dam betulim bleeding. If that happens, do I become niddah again immediately? Are there ways to decrease that chance? Thank you.
Mazal tov on your recent wedding!
Given that you already completed an act of relations and already separated for dam betulim, you are correct that your primary concern now should be minimizing the chances of recurrence. If you were to find more dam betulim, you would have to separate again. In practice, you are not required to look for dam betulim now and you should seek halachic advice if any question arises.
Your best bet is to have relations on colored sheets. If you or your husband uses a towel at any stage, use a colored towel. Do not perform a bedikah after relations. Do not look for signs of bleeding and actively avoid looking for the first minutes after relations. Review the laws of stains (ketamim) and take the usual precautions against becoming niddah from staining: wear colored underwear and avoid looking at toilet paper. Please let us know if we can be of further assistance.
This internet service does not preclude, override or replace the psak of any rabbinical authority. It is the responsibility of the questioner to inform us of any previous consultation or ruling. As even slight variation in circumstances may have Halachic consequences, views expressed concerning one case may not be applied to other, seemingly similar cases. All health and health-related information contained within Nishmat's Women's Health & Halacha Web site is intended to be general in nature and should not be used as a substitute for consulting with your health care professional. The advice is intended to offer a basis for individuals to discuss their medical condition with their health care provider but not individual advice. Although every effort is made to ensure that the material within Nishmat's Women's Health & Halacha Web site is accurate and timely, it is provided for the convenience of the Web site user but should not be considered official. Advice for actual medical practice should be obtained from a licensed health care professional.
For further questions or comments:
The Nishmat Women's Health and Halacha Site is a public service of Nishmat, The Jeanie Schottenstein Center for Advanced Torah Study for Women. This project and others like it are made possible by contributions from people like you. If you have benefited from the service, and wish to enable us to help others, click here to donate.
Users of Internet filtering services: This site discusses sensitive subjects that some services filter without visual indication. A page that appears 100% complete might actually be missing critical Jewish-law or medical information. To ensure that you view the pages accurately, ask the filtering service to whitelist all pages under yoatzot.org.