Worries about early ovulation
19 September, 2012
My mikva night is set for tomorrow night and my ovulation date, according to my calendar, is today. We are trying to conceive – and how is that possible if we cannot have relations on my fertile days before ovulation? Typically my period lasts 5–6 days and mikva night is right before ovulation. But lately it hasn't been working out. Any advice?
Also, I am pretty preoccupied in thought about the proper time to conceive, and I'm always checking for signs of pregnancy. It's making me rather crazy, and I have no reason to be as we have no medical issues and have only been trying after going off lo Loestrin three months ago. However, since I am preoccupied, having relations is forced for me and all I can think about is if its going to work this time….forget about trying to enjoy myself.
Especially since my ovulation works out after mikva, it gives me another reason to worry .
Thank you for your guidance.
It is normal to take a few months for your cycle to regulate after going off the pill. It is possible that your cycles and ovulation date will readjust on their own. At this point, you should just make sure you are getting to mikveh as soon as you can. The hefsek taharah need not be totally clear – there are many shades of brown that are acceptable. You should perform a hefsek taharah as soon as the bleeding is no longer reddish, and bring any stained bedikot to a rabbi for evaluation.
If this situation continues, you should confirm when ovulation is taking place. This can be done with ovulation kits available at the pharmacy. If you confirm that you are consistently ovulating before immersion, the next step is to use some form of medical intervention. Please see our article on halachic infertility for more information.
Even under the best of circumstances it is normal to take up to a year to conceive. We empathize with your situation and the stress it is causing you, but it's important to try to relax and not get overwhelmed. Worrying and stress can affect fertility, so take a deep breath, take things one day at a time, and b'ezrat Hashem, everything will work out in the right time.
We wish you much hatzlacha!
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