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Separate beds with a toddler

6 January, 2014


My 21–month old son tends to sleep with me (us) at night. When I am niddah and the beds are separated I have found him countless times falling through the space between the beds. We have been putting the beds together for this reason, but I am unsure if there is anything specific to do to make a heker when I am niddah.



Even in this situation, it is not permissible to keep the beds together during niddah. You can try other options to keep your son safe while still keeping the harchakot properly. For example, you could push your bed against the wall and sleep with your son in between you and the wall so he will not fall out of the bed. You could attach a toddler bed rail to the side of the bed to keep him from falling out. Or you could place something else between the beds – either something high enough to block a fall, or something soft and close to the height of the bed that would be safe for him to roll onto. Alternatively, you can place a crib/toddler mattress on the floor next to your bed and try to slowly transition him to that mattress. We hope you are able to come up with a solution that works for you and your son.

Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.


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