Assessing stains with irregular cycles
25 January, 2016
Hi, I'm a 44 year old woman who has had VERY regular periods between 21 and 23 days apart since I was 14. After I gave birth 8 years ago, they lengthened to an average of 25 days (from day 1 to the next day 1).
Within the last year and a half, they've been drastically lengthening out until now I'm at 131 days. My doctor did a blood work–up six months ago, said it's not pre–menopausal and that my hormone levels are perfectly normal.
Yesterday I got some sort of a stain that I believe put me into niddah. There was no flow but it's large and was accompanied by cramping. I expected I'd have a flow by this morning but still nothing.
My question for going forward, is under these circumstances (increasingly long, but also random intervals between periods, and what seems like it might only be staining instead of a flow), how do I determine if⁄when I'm niddah? At the moment, I don't have a rav I'm comfortable taking stains to.
It is quite common to experience irregular staining during the peri-menopausal stage.
As long as you do not experience an actual flow, you may take precautions against becoming niddah from the staining by wearing colored underwear (or disposable pantyliners) and waiting 15 seconds after urinating before wiping in order to disregard stains found on toilet paper.
Even if the stain is accompanied by cramping, that is usually not considered a hargashah, and it would not render you niddah.
Hargashah has a very specific definition in halacha. It is defined as one of three sensations – feeling the uterus opening, feeling one's whole body shaking, or feeling liquid exit the uterus into the vagina. These sensations are quite rare, and unless a woman is certain she experienced one of these sensations, she can assume she did not experience a hargashah.
Sometimes, a woman may experience a specific symptom that consistently precedes her periods. This may be considered a veset haguf if she consistently experiences this symptom at a set time/interval preceding the onset of the flow, and she never experiences this symptom at any other time other than before her period. For example, if you always begin bleeding 12 hours after feeling cramping, and you never experience this type of cramping at any other time, you would be required to perform a bedikah 12 hours after feeling this symptom. If the symptom does not fall into the above parameters, it is not considered a veset haguf, and has no halachic significance.
Even if the stain is large, if it is not a flow, it is subject to the leniencies of stains. While it can be difficult to distinguish between heavy staining and a light flow, one way to distinguish is if you need to use a pad to contain the bleeding (as opposed to a light pantyliner). If that is the case you should assume you are experiencing a flow. Bleeding lighter than that is likely just heavy staining.
Based on your description of the stain you found, if it was found on colored underwear or on toilet paper (not immediately after urinating) it did not render you niddah. We do recommend abstaining for 24 hours after finding a stain so your status may be fully clarified.
Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.
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