Date while niddah
2 February, 2003
Is it ok to go on a "date" with my husband when I am niddah? Can we go out for coffee or dinner, or to a movie, or for a walk at night in the park? Do we need to do anything differently? I know it is better when I'm not niddah, but with kids and business trips and work deadlines that's not always possible. Thank you.
With today's hectic lifestyle, it is important to find time for each other while still being true to the letter and spirit of the halacha. The sources talk about not going on walks in secluded areas. Therefore, as long as you follow the usual conduct related to eating and drinking (using a heker, and not sharing the same cup or eating off the same plate), going out for coffee or dinner should be fine. The issues for a movie are twofold: 1) Can you sit without touching? 2) Is the content of the movie too arousing? The walk in the park would depend how secluded and romantic the setting. A brisk walk while catching up on the day's events is fine. A very leisurely stroll whispering sweet nothings to each other is best left to other times of the month.
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