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Mikveh day stress

23 February, 2004


Is it normal to feel extremely stressed on the day one is to go to the mikveh? If so, can you discuss and suggest helpful tips that will establish a better tone and feeling for the house and the mikveh user?


You are not the first woman to report mikveh-day stress. Any stressors that could lead you to rush preparations are not only an emotional concern. Halachically, it is important that mikveh preparations be unhurried.

We suggest you take advantage of the week's lead-time prior to immersion. Practically, both you and your husband should review and coordinate your schedules for mikveh day and night well in advance. Then you can make adjustments to relieve stress and provide ample time for preparations and for each other. Such adjustments might include hiring a babysitter, one or both of you leaving work early, or even making sure to get a good night's sleep the night before. It helps to assemble a bag of the items you use at the mikveh (money included), so that you do not have to pack anew each month. Emotionally, the more attentive you and your spouse are to each other in the days prior to mikveh, the better you will be able to weather any stresses en route.

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