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Coping with divorce

22 July, 2021

Question:

My husband recently asked for a divorce. It was a complete surprise. We have a 9-month-old baby. We live in Israel; my family are in the US and also most of my friends. I don’t know what to do, I’m crying every day. I’m too embarrassed to tell my family. How do I deal with this situation?


Answer:

We are so sorry to hear of your situation.

If your husband is willing to try marital counseling, we strongly recommend giving it a chance. If he is not willing, we urge you to go to individual counseling to help you process what is going on, and to be emotionally healthy and strong, for your sake and for your baby’s sake. Referrals for counselors can be found at www.nefesh.org or www.gethelpisrael.com. You can also check with your kuppat cholim, and see if your city’s municipality offers subsidized therapy,

As embarrassed as you are feeling, having a strong support system is critical; you are a vulnerable woman with a young baby, alone in a new country. Reach out to your family and close friends, you did nothing wrong, you need their help and support right now. You should also look into consulting a lawyer. If you are unable to pay for a lawyer, the government offers free legal services from Siyua Mishpati.

Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.

We wish you much strength and hatzlacha.


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