Period began soon after relations, before veset
30 October, 2022
On Wednesday, I could tell my period was on its way but had no idea how close it was. It was my first period in a while not connected to the pill. The Onot I could calculate would be Thursday and Friday night.
We had relations Wednesday night, and the next morning I saw what looked like the beginning of my period (a few drops of blood mixed with previous night’s fluids…). I got my period in the afternoon.
Is this problematic?
In general, should a couple refrain from even before the Onot in a case where the period is not on a steady schedule and they don’t know when it could arrive?
Specifically if one’s discharge starts becoming more light brown rather than yellow (usually happens in the days before their period) should they refrain from then?
Thank you for reaching out to us.
We appreciate the sensitive nature of this question.
If a woman finds blood during relations or immediately afterwards, there is a halachic issue. In contrast, there is no specific halachic concern about a couple having relations prior to the onset of the woman’s period, as long as their timing is not on an onat veset.
In general, when a woman has staining that does not make her niddah, we often recommend abstaining for a day or so as a precaution against a flow beginning during relations. This is not a strict halachic requirement, though, and light brown is not a niddah color, so we don’t usually make this recommendation to women with staining of this shade. If, however, a woman consistently has this staining within a set interval of the onset of her flow, then she might set a veset haguf. (Please get back to us if you think this is relevant here. It didn’t sound like it, from what you wrote.)
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