During niddah, couples should avoid
behaviors or conversation that may lead to physical intimacy. At the same time, they need to sensitively navigate this time so that emotional closeness is preserved and cultivated. The balance here is somewhat subjective, so while some may view buying flowers as inappropriate, others may see this type of gesture as a fitting way to express love and consideration when physical expressions are prohibited. Based on your description, your husband should feel free to buy you flowers for Shabbat, especially since those who are stringent with respect to affectionate gifts permit flowers in honor of Shabbat.
We respect your efforts to be more careful about Taharat HaMishpacha and the harchakot. However, couples should not add restrictions during niddah beyond those that are set by our Sages, unless they have specific reason to do so and have worked out together what makes sense for them.
This response was updated on 04 December, 2025.
