We appreciate the sensitive nature of this question.
Your friend’s case isn’t fully clear to us. Based on what you write, she ovulates very early in her cycle, so that it is quite possible that medical factors unrelated to
niddah have affected her ability to conceive. In any case, please share our article about
ovulating before immersion with her, to help her learn about the halachic approaches to addressing that type of situation.
Please also let her know that support during this process is available from Nishmat Yoatzot Halacha Fertility Counselors, who offer free consultations in person (in Israel) or online, in Hebrew or English, for women and couples experiencing fertility challenges. Click
here to set up a personal meeting.
In general, we cannot know what God intends for any couple. The
mitzva of procreation is indeed very important, and our challenge is to help women maximize their ability to conceive while observing the laws of
niddah.
We are fortunate to live in an age when many problems that could not be solved in the past have solutions. The halachic steps mentioned in our article might help your friend conceive. Even if your friend cannot conceive naturally, we hope she will be able to do so with medical assistance. Just as we see God in natural childbirth, we can recognize His role in assisted reproduction.
We wish your friend much hatzlacha!
This response was updated on 22 November, 2020.
