We are very sorry to hear of your miscarriage.
Unfortunately, for optimal use, all halachically approved barrier methods involve
spermicides. However, barrier methods such as the
diaphragm or cervical cap do provide some protection if used alone. These need to be fitted by a physician, so discuss that option with your doctor. If you can reliably medically determine when you are ovulating, you may rely on abstinence during your window of fertility. You may want to find a teacher of the
Fertility Awareness Method as well, to further help determine your window of fertility.
Some halachic authorities recommend
postponing mikveh until relations will be possible, in order to minimize the risk of
hotza'at zera l'vatalah. Rav Yehuda Henkin, the halachic supervisor of our site, allows each couple to make the judgment themselves. If you and your husband do not feel that there is likely to be a problem, you may immerse on time to allow physical closeness without intercourse.
Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.