We are so sorry to hear of your miscarriage and the challenging situation you are facing. We pray that Hashem gives you the emotional strength to get through this difficult time.

Taharat hamishpacha is challenging for many women. Unfortunately we receive questions from women who struggle with these halachot on a monthly basis. Thankfully, until now you have kept these halachot with grace and good spirits, and we hope that after this stressful period passes your negative feelings will fade with time.

At times like these, we must turn to other women (family members, good friends) for the physical comfort that is needed. But there is a also an opportunity to strengthen your relationship now, and allow your husband to give you the emotional support that you need. The levels of closeness that a couple can achieve through their emotional bond can be even stronger and more everlasting than a physical connection.

Unfortunately it is common to experience irregular bleeding/staining for the first few cycles of hormonal contraception as your body adjusts to the hormones, so it is possible that the staining is due to the pills as well. You have to prepare yourself for the possibility that the next few weeks may be quite challenging, but that they soon will pass. Once you adjust to the pill, you can speak to your physician about extending your cycle to allow yourself more time with your husband between periods.

As soon as the bleeding is no longer reddish you should attempt a hefsek taharah. Be sure to bring any questionable stains to a rabbi for evaluation, since there are many shades of brown that are acceptable. If you have difficulty getting through the clean days, please feel free to get back to us for further guidance.

We wish you a refuat hanefesh v’haguf!