I have been married for over 5 years. I was married at 20.

In the second year of marriage, my husband found out he had a condition called varicocele. This condition can make it hard to conceive in some, but not others, and can be fixed with surgery.

So, I’m sure you think, well, go fix it. At first, I figured there’s a good chance it will happen on its own, since many manage to conceive despite this, and I figured I will give Hashem time to make it work if that was His will.

Since more than 3 years have passed since then I am convinced that nothing will happen on its own. The issue is however, I do not feel like I need to have a child right now, and I am quite content to wait for surgery until I feel the need or at least until I feel time is running out. I know that halachically I am not obligated to have children, since the gemara specified that pru urvu is only for the man.

So the question is, really, is my husband required to have the surgery, since he has the mitzvah of pru urvu, or is he exempt from it since Hashem has decided to make him infertile?