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Prohibition on touching – Torah or Rabbinic law?

I have read that there is some dispute among the Rishonim about whether the prohibition on kissing, hugging, and any touch that brings pleasure is d’Oraita or d’Rabanan. I know it makes no difference ...

Single bed post-menopause

In a previous posting, you indicated that while there was no halachic prohibition for a couple to have one bed (as long as they had an alternate arrangement for times the wife was niddah), but that it was best to have two beds due to mareet ayin. Does thi...

Separate rooms during niddah?

I am currently teaching a Kallah, and she asked me whether it was permissible for a husband and wife to sleep in separate rooms while she is niddah. She said that she thought it would be best that way – in terms of controlling temptation – but...

Mourning & harchakot

As much as it is challenging and frustrating, my wife and I are extremely careful with Hilchot Nidah and I understand that they are applicable under even extreme circumstances, barring situations involving life and death or danger to health.
However...

Coping with mikveh delay

Hi. For my last 2 cycles I suffered badly from an infection and our physical relations were very limited during this time. Now I am cured but just had a bad bedikah on my 6th clean day – asked a rabbi, who knows the whole situation, and he confirmed...

Arguments during niddah

Thank you for your wonderful website. Here is my question:
I have been married for a couple of years and recently I figured out a pattern in my marriage where many times when I am a niddah, my husband and I will have an argument. We have little disa...

Perspective on harchakot after miscarriage

I recently had a very painful miscarriage after being pregnant for 5 months. Although the doctor said that the bleeding normally lasts for 5–7 days after the procedure (it was a D and E), it’s been almost 2 weeks and there is no sign that I wi...

Harchakot and mikveh post-surgery

My husband and I follow the laws of family purity very closely. I recently found out I might be having major abdominal surgery for a large hernia. I am due for my period pretty soon. If I get my period and have the surgery before I can go to the mikvah, o...

Embarrassed and frustrated by not passing

Hello. I am at the end of my rope with the "no–passing" halacha. Time after time I am presented with situations where there is some urgent need to pass something to my husband, and the constant obsessing necessary to ensure that the time of month is...

Tension during niddah

Thank you for having such an informative website and offering such important help. I am a newlywed ba’alat-tshuva, age 33. My husband and I are having terrible fights while I am Read More

Can’t keep from touching

Hi I have been married for six months. My husband and I always wanted to keep taharat hamishpacha completely correctly. We both learned about it in depth and vowed to keep it right. We always try to keep from touching but we never can. We both know it is ...
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Mother and son: niddah restrictions?

My son was just bar mitzvah. Is he allowed to touch me during my 7 white days? Am I allowed to tuck him in and still kiss him at bed? Do I follow niddah laws for him too?
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