In memory of Chaya Mirel bat R’ Avraham

In memory of Chaya Mirel bat R' Avraham

Bed arrangements
03/06/2003

Question

My husband and I try to do our best in the Taharat hamishpacha area, but we were never really clear on the issue of the bed set up. I've seen that some of my friends have two twin beds totally separate and others have other arrangements. What are some acceptable bed arrangements? Thank you.

Answer

The halacha states that while the wife is niddah the couple should sleep in separate beds. While some poskim require a greater separation, the minimum distance between beds is enough that the beds and bedding do not touch. The separation should be sufficient to prevent inadvertent rolling over into the other bed. The beds do have to come apart; however, it is acceptable if they are attached to one headboard or footboard. Some couples prefer to have a large double bed and for one spouse (usually the husband) to sleep on a cot or twin bed during the period of separation. If you have some different arrangement in mind, let us know and we can tell you if this is also permissible.

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