Thank you for reaching out to us.
One aspect of observing an
onah is performing a
bedikah on it. This is because the
onah is a day or night on which we assume that
niddah bleeding is more likely to begin. By performing a
bedikah, we check whether that halachic assumption is well founded, and we establish whether we need observe the same
onah in the future. This is true for each
onah individually. Therefore, you should perform a
bedikah on each of the three
onot.
The connection between the
bedikah and relations is specific to
onah beinonit, because the halachic presumption that a woman experienced
niddah bleeding on her
onah beinonit is stronger than on her other
onot. When a woman misses performing a
bedikah on her
onat chodesh or
onat haflagah, she is permitted to have relations afterwards (when it isn’t an
onah, and if she hasn’t yet become
niddah). If a woman misses a
bedikah on the
onah beinonit, however, then relations are prohibited until she performs one.
On a final note, there are different traditions for how to calculate the
onat haflagah and we want to confirm which method you are using. The configuration that you describe would seem to align with a specific method associated with Chabad. Chabad counts each day and night distinctly in calculating the interval (
haflagah). Other traditions calculate the interval based on the halachic dates, and observe either day or night based on whether a woman’s most recent period began during the day or night. (Using a standard non-Chabad calculation, your
onat haflagah would be in the daytime like your other
onot. See more about standard
haflagah calculations
here.)
Please
be in touch with any further questions.