Thank you for reaching out to us.
We are sorry to hear of your wife's struggles and some of the implications.
Unfortunately, it is fairly common for
niddah observance to become a focus for religious women with OCD. You and your wife might find it helpful to see our overview of these issues on our site,
here.
In your wife's situation, it is permissible to rely on the opinion of the Taz, who does not require a separate visual inspection once
preparations are complete. This may be helpful in the short term, though it is fundamentally a type of avoidance, and eventually will likely need to be addressed differently in therapy.
We are excited to share that Nishmat's Yoatzot Halacha are beginning a pilot treatment program in Israel where professional counseling for OCD and related issues is integrated with halachic guidance. Registration is
here.
Please let us know if we can be of further assistance.
