Kvatter in early pregnancy
2 December, 2008
After 3 years of marriage and fertility problems, B'H I'm 10 weeks pregnant and still not telling anyone.
Last week my husband and I were given the honor of being kevaterim at a Brit Milah. I doubted if I should accept (because of my pregnancy) but I still didn't want to give them the good news (not yet) so we walked the baby in.
Today I heard that it's a custom that the kvater shouldn't be pregnant. Why is this? and did I do something wrong by accepting?
The custom is to give the kibbud of kvatter to a couple who have no children, or who are having trouble conceiving even if they have children. Since you do not have children yet, it is appropriate to act as kvatterin as a prayer that all goes well and you deliver a healthy baby.
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