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You may want to start with our list of some of the many English books written on the subject. You may find A Lifetime Companion to the Laws of Jewish Family Life, by Dr. Deena Zimmerman (director of this website), and The Marriage Covenant, by Rabbi Elyashiv Knohl, to be among the most accessible halachic presentations. We also recommend Total Immersion: A Mikvah Anthology, edited by Rivkah Slonim, as well as the website www.mikvah.org, to convey something of the experience of observing this mitzvah.

After reading any of these, feel free to browse through this site for further information and to ask us any questions, either online or through our telephone hotline. If you are particularly concerned about something that you read, ask about it. Not all possible answers are provided in books meant for the general public.

If you do get engaged, it is important to have at least some personal, individual guidance from a woman experienced in teaching these laws (a “kallah teacher”). No book or website can completely substitute for face-to-face interaction.