1. It is very common for cycles to be irregular postpartum and while nursing.
PCOS can sometimes contribute to this.
2. Yes, once the
onot perishah have passed, relations are fully permissible. The reason that there are specific
veset days is to limit our obligation to worry about the onset of a period to set times.
While
staining might be a good indication that you should abstain from relations for a day or so lest a flow begin, there is no obligation to abstain aside from the
onot perishah. Even general cramping or moodiness such as you describe does not mean you need to abstain.
3. We are sorry to hear of the difficulties that PCOS sometimes causes for you. On the natural end, eating a healthy diet low in refined carbohydrates and keeping one’s weight down can often make a real difference with PCOS.
While we are not familiar with specific natural remedies, we have heard anecdotally of some women being helped by Chinese medicine. Any complementary treatments should be undertaken in consultation with one’s physician.
We do suggest seeing a specialist to explore different treatment options, including raising the possibility of Metformin, which acts on the insulin system and can sometimes be helpful with PCOS.
Please let us know if we can be of further assistance.