You are not alone in finding bedikot difficult. However, while it is true that a woman should ideally do two bedikot on each of the seven clean days, in cases where she finds bedikot uncomfortable, or just unmanageable, a woman may reduce the number of bedikot and perform one bedikah on each day of the seven clean days. This probably makes sense for you, as doing a daily bedikah as part of your morning routine may help with your forgetfulness and possibly ease the feeling that you need to be constantly worrying about bedikot.

If a daily bedikah is very difficult for you, one bedikah on day one, one bedikah on day seven, and one bedikah on one of the middle days would suffice. We do not recommend omitting the middle day bedikah, although, strictly speaking, a woman may immerse without it.

There is no obligation to keep checking the toilet paper. It would be better to find a halachically acceptable number of bedikot that you can manage, rather than to rely on looking at the toilet paper.

Please write back to us if you have any more questions.