Hysterectomy to avoid niddah

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19/04/2021

Question

Am I halachically allowed to get an elective partial hysterectomy in order to prevent future periods? My husband thinks it’s more likely we’d get a heter to hug each other while I’m niddah, but I can’t see that happening. I’ve always hated my period anyway, even before it kept me from being hugged. I am done having kids and the entire thing is just pointless now. I cry every time it comes. I’m scared to ask for a psak, because if they say no, I’m stuck with this for the next 20 years with no breaks (wanting not to be niddah is a bad reason to have a baby) and I don’t think I can handle that.
My youngest is a year old and it’s not getting any easier. Is there a halachic way that will allow me to have hugs when I need them?

Answer

We are sorry to hear of the difficulty you are having with niddah.
From a medical perspective, it is strongly advised not to undergo a hysterectomy unless medically warranted. Halachically, it would not be permissible. We recommend speaking to your doctor about hormonal solutions for extending your cycle (either birth control pills or a hormonal IUD). Having your period only 4 times a year (or less) could significantly relieve the pressure you are feeling from niddah.
We also recommend sitting down with your husband to brainstorm ways to keep the emotional connection strong even when you are physically unable to connect. While a hug can be very powerful, so can consistent and frequent acts of giving, love, and communication that do not include physical touch.
Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.
B’Hatzlacha!

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