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Increasing observance
July 16, 2004

Question

My husband and I follow family purity laws except for not touching during my niddah period. We do abstain from marital relations, but I would also like to try not touching. How can I suggest that we do this without making him feel bad or rejected?
Thanks for your help! This is an incredible site.

Answer

Congratulations on your desire to be more careful with the family purity laws. The best way to approach your husband without hurting his feelings is to find a quiet, calm moment and explain that you wish to more carefully observe the laws. Let him express his feelings. Agree on a trial period for starters. Schedule another time to discuss how it went – what was successful, what was difficult, what could have made it easier, and so on.

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