New with bedikot, questionable colors, who can I ask?

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December 29, 2005

Question

I am new at practicing mikvah – a rebbetzin explained the basics to me and we didn’t talk about bedikahs. I got the courage to ask for some bedikah cloths at the mikvah last month when I was leaving. I have been trying to get a clean hefsek for 3 days now (I’ve also been wearing white underwear for the last 3 days and they’re clean). The first day it was mostly brownish/orange with a spot of red which I think was clearly not okay. The last 2 days have been the same brownish/orange with no red. Although I haven’t done bedikas before, I have in the past had a similar color on toilet paper until I ovulate (usually about day 14-20 of my cycle). So far I’ve just gone to the mikvah based on the white underwear.

I am being treated with metformin for PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) which has brought the androgen levels back to normal and eliminated luteal phase spotting but has not helped shorten this brownish orange “discharge”. The doctor is at a loss and doesn’t want to do anything else until I’ve been infertile for another six months.

I am very uncomfortable asking the rabbi and they are on vacation until next week anyway. I’m also a bit uncomfortable asking the rebbetzin since we never talked about bedikas.

Is there a way to ask a rabbi you’ve never met remotely?

Thanks for your help.

Answer

You deserve a lot of credit for your efforts to follow these laws scrupulously!

Not all colors put a woman in niddah, invalidate a hefsek taharah, or pose problems during the clean days. This is the case with some browns and may well be the case with the stains you describe.

Unfortunately, you cannot evaluate the stains on your own. There are many ways in which you can consult with an expert. Many rabbis accommodate women who wish to have their stains evaluated anonymously. Ask the synagogue office for information. Alternatively, you could send your husband to drop off cloths for you. We do not think you should rule out the rebbetzin. Although she did not discuss bedikot with you, she will probably be very pleased to see that you have begun to perform them. A female orthodox friend could also help you to ask your question. If you would like to contact a Yoetzet Halacha to assist you, click here for a directory of local yoatzot. At present, there is no way to ask remotely.

However you ask the question, be sure to indicate what the stain is (a stain on underwear, hefsek taharah, or bedikah), the stage in your cycle, and any other factors. In this case, it is important to mention how long you have been niddah, how many failed hefsek taharah attempts you have made, and your PCOS status.

We hope this helps and that you do not hesitate to contact us again. We also wish you success with your medical treatments.

This response was updated 16 December, 2025.

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