Thank you for your kind words. We are happy to be of help.
We respectfully disagree with the approach of requiring women to ask questions about stains that clearly meet the
halachic criteria for leniency. The Torah itself gives the woman a substantial level of credence in its discussion of
niddah laws. If anything, women tend to be far more stringent on themselves than necessary. Look for information (as on our site) rather than a universal checklist — and trust yourself.
It does sound as though your anxieties about stains have been veering into the OCD range. If you find these feelings persist, you may wish to investigate meeting for a couple of sessions with a specialist in CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) to address the issues.
Please write back with any further questions.
2024: Please see our article on
OCD and Niddah Observance, and our brochure “
What are you feeling?!” on stress and anxiety around mikveh and niddah, for more guidance and information.