Thank you for reaching out to us.

While relations are highly encouraged on Shabbat, they are not a strict obligation. This leaves room for a couple to have flexibility with timing, depending on how they feel.

We agree with you that the best approach here would be to find a way to clean yourself that satisfies your needs and is not in violation of Shabbat.

We suggest experimenting with some combination of the following to see what works for you:

• Intimate cleaning wipes



• A cold water bidet



• Washing just the relevant area using a handheld showerhead with cold water (or warm water from the "dud shemesh" solar heater, if you follow the view that it is permissible)



• A small, soft folded washcloth or handkerchief (placed to catch initial leakage)



• A pantyliner



• "Period" absorbent underwear.

We hope this helps. Please let us know if we can be of further assistance.