In memory of Chaya Mirel bat R’ Avraham

In memory of Chaya Mirel bat R' Avraham

Touching the attendant after immersion
October 27, 2014

Question

I recently moved to a remote community to work in the synagogue. Amongst my duties, I have started working as the balanit of the mikveh. I have come across various minhagim that I was not familiar with and wanted to know the reason for: The first of these is that some women say they need to touch the mikveh attendant straight after immersing. Please can you let me know where this comes from?

Answer

The Rema (Yoreh Deah 198:48) states that a woman emerging from the mikveh should take care to be met by a friend. This is meant to avoid a situation in which her first encounter out of the mikveh is with an impure creature, such as a dog or a pig. Some sources raise a concern that such an encounter could have a negative spiritual impact on a child conceived following the immersion, and would advise the woman to immerse again if this happened.
Therefore, by greeting the woman as she emerges from the water (there are opinions that she should shake her hand or make some type of physical contact), the balanit ensures that the woman's first encounter is with a pious person who will be a positive spiritual influence. (This is true even if the balanit is niddah at the time; the Rema is referring to a different, inherent type of impurity.)
Please feel free to get back to us with any further questions.
B'Hatzlacha!

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